Why working with a life coach could be the secret to thriving in midlife
Why life coaching is a midlife woman’s answer to thrive & flourish!
Are you ready to transform how you feel about being your? Are you tired of feeling less than in some way or another? Trying your best to be all things to all people and feeling like there is nothing left for you? Well we can change that my love!
Life coaching isn't therapy but there is a lot of listening and asking important questions. It’s identifying what may be holding us back, but also about creating a life we want to life too.
Sometimes there are big changes we need to face in our lives. But also there are the small and incremental steps that can add up to how we can move forward with hope, optimism and a new positive energy.
We all need to feel seen and heard. There is holding space for you but there is also building strategies and mindset resets that help you to look forwards with excitement and a sense of hope for “future you”.
Women in midlife come to me who can feel they are existing and not really living. Getting through the days but a lack of joy… of fun…of purpose means we are often living life on an auto pilot.
We have to learn how to put those boundaries in place so that we are not constantly apologising for who we are. Saying yes when really we just want to say no. People pleasing because we were brought up to be “good and nice girls”. Understanding perfectionism and why we procrastinate and think the answer is to do more, try harder, keep busy and then understand why we feel anxious and burnt out.
As we age there are so many changes we women have to navigate. I definitely see a theme in the women who come to me. Loss of confidence fuelled by changes in body and soul through menopause, life events. Loss and grief and and living losses too. Loss of purpose…the job that no longer hold meaning, the kids leaving home or building lives in other cities and countries. Being needed less in some way however that looks and feels to each of us. What used to make up such a big part of who you are…whatever that is, means we have to fill that gap on the inside of you in a different way now.
This was definitely me when I retired from my specialist nursing role in secondary breast cancer. We relocated back to Cornwall and although at first it felt like the stress of work was lifting from my shoulders after a while I started to miss being “necessary and needed” and without my sons and friends and work I began to feel literally invisible.
Add to that how the world we live in can shape our thoughts. Comparison to others is logged into our subconscious mind at every step of the way. Social media, the news and society can lead to “defeat and deficiency.” The majority of humans we see across social media are younger, brighter etc etc (or so it seems). Age, weight, jobs and literally who we are, can leave us feeling of not being enough in some way.
But we can change how we see ourselves! For me things began to feel different on the inside of me when I started to believe “something” may be possible. I couldn’t name it yet. But I began to feel an excitement in my belly!
Working with a life coach can help you to understand the power of your thoughts and those beliefs packed away in our subconscious that hold us back without us even realising. You could literally be standing in your own way! I know I was. Fear and doubt held me back from starting a new career and my own biz. It was a life coach who helped me believe it was actually possible.
Is there something right now you really want to achieve? Perhaps it is a goal of some sorts, but often it a feeling of hope and excitement that you really want to feel about being you and your life again.
What would it feel like to have that? What I love to do is to help you begin to believe in yourself and build trust in you from the inside to achieve those goals, dreams and changes you have been longing for. It’s not too late for you please know that.
My top 3 reasons to work with a life coach to help you thrive in midlife
1. Unlock your full potential. Tap into your unique strengths and talents too. Shine your light and start to ask who are you not to be fabulous?!
2. Navigate life transitions. Life can be so challenging in our midlife years and a life coach can provide invaluable insights and guidance. It’s down to you but you can make your decisions and embrace change with resilience and a growth mindset.
3. Cultivate self care and wellbeing. Life coaching is more than goals. Although that is part of it & can be about taking care of you on the inside as well as the outside. I love to help women build a routine that can bring more balance to your life, reduce stress and actually helps you to love you and your life again.
I want to empower women. Perhaps you’ve forgotten how to take care of you under the weight of others needs. Perhaps you can’t remember the last time you belly laughed or did something just for the fun of it. Is it time for change? Do you want to look at the world with new eyes and a new energy for what your next chapter could look like?
You are the best investment you will ever make for you. No one is coming to save us! We have to learn how to become our own cheerleader & be what we really need for you my friend.